9 C's to Feeling Comfortable in your own Skin
1.
Are you at war with your own body?2. Are you constantly comparing yourself to others or maybe to a version of your younger self?
3. Do you judge or pick apart your body when you look at yourself in the mirror?
4. Do you avoid doing things because you don’t want others to see you?
If so, you are not alone. Most women I have met throughout my life as a fitness professional and now as an Intuitive Eating coach have said yes to these questions...
I continue to see talented, engaging,
smart, compassionate, funny, artistic, dedicated and passionate woman spend
their day’s hating themselves when they find me.
Almost 100% of their
thoughts every day are focused on things like…good foods and bad foods, what
they have eaten or not eaten, what body part they hate, making excuses to go
places, counting calories, looking up diets, thinking about their next eating
episode, comparing themselves to others, how many calories they have burned, or
not burned, how “bad” or “good” they have been, beating themselves up for their
lack of “willpower” or the size of their thighs.
These thoughts ride
around and around on well-worn train
tracks in their heads.
One of my first goals is to help CREATE SPACE in
their heads for more productive thoughts and activities, things like…
Singing, writing,
creating, speaking, motivated, supporting, dancing, sharing, protesting, comforting,
communicating, educating and more…
I want to help YOU start the journey to feeling comfortable
in your own skin. Guiding you to realize
that you are so much more than a number on a scale or the size of your
pants. I want to encourage you to start
appreciating and accepting your body.
Here are 9 ways I
support women JUST LIKE YOU find a path to take better care of yourself and
it begins by believing that you are worth it.
-SELF-COMPASSION:
Discovering, developing and strengthening a compassionate and kind inner voice
that can validate pain, sooth suffering, ward off the mean inner voice and
begin to befriend your whole self; body mind and spirit.
-CHALLENGE you to
question your current thoughts and beliefs with nonjudgmental CURIOSITY
o
Why do I think that way?o What made me feel that?
o Why do I say that to myself?
-Give yourself permission to make CHOICES in regards to food, not based on any diet or on any set of
rules.
o
What to eato When to eat
o How much to eat
-Call upon COURAGE
to make a CHANGE to your current
thoughts and behaviors. Our behaviors
are linked to our current thoughts. For
example, when you step on a scale and a number pops up, what thoughts come
up? With those thoughts, what are the
behaviors that follow? Connecting the
dots from the thought to the behavior creates a pause. Within this pause change the thought.
-Build CONFIDENCE through
the COMPENTENCE of noticing the
thoughts and pausing. By pausing we can question the thought, without
judgment. “Wow, I am such a failure, I
might as well go to McDonalds, because it doesn’t matter anyway” to “Wow, that
is interesting, why am I feeling like this? Why does a number on a scale
provoke these feelings? I know am doing
the best I can right now. Things have
been hard. I wonder what it is that I
need? Maybe I will take a walk” (take a
bath, call a friend to vent, cry, journal etc) . Making a different decision
will build more confidence, thus more competence, and so on….
-Make CONNECTIONS
with others who have had the same experiences, this creates validation and a
realization that you are not alone.
Having someone to share thoughts and feelings with on your same journey
can create a safe space to share. We
know that human connection has many benefits, decrease stress, anxiety,
comparison and judgment, increase safety, OK-ness and a sense of well-being.
So when you are ready…
·
Start with some Self-Compassion· Be Curious
· Make Choices
· Challenge thoughts and Behaviors
· Have Courage to create Change
· Gain Confidence and Competence
· Make Connections
Your body is your home, it is here within your own skin where
you can find comfort, and contentment.
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